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Happy Anti-Father's Day!

by aquinasandmore on June 15, 2008

While buying Father's Day cards at the local Hallmark store, I was struck by two cards that point to the ongoing trend in our society that can really only be described as anti-Father.

The first card said "I have a great idea. Let's not have anymore kids." On the inside it said. "See, I'm a genius!". The second card was a card for a single mom thanking her for being both a mother and father to her kid(s).

These cards are just a couple more anecdotes that show a general antipathy towards fathers. If you haven't been paying attention for the last decade or so, there are plenty of other examples:

  • Can you name a tv show where the men aren't a bunch of cads, fools or dumber than their kids?
  • Can you name a tv or radio ad where the woman and kids aren't the smart ones who save bumbling dad?
  • The entire radical feminist movement is geared towards the destruction of fatherhood and aims to paint men as the basic problem with society.
  • Britain just passed a law that implicitly declared fathers irrelevant in the child rearing process.
  • Even our welfare system has long been geared towards fatherless homes where the mom and kids lose benefits if mom is married and dad lives with them.
  • Magazines and newspapers have repeatedly published articles asking if men are even necessary to make children anymore.

Apart from these things, the concepts of chivalry, honor, and self-sacrifice have become things to mock and dismiss as archaic. Can you imagine the snickering that would be elicited by a man expressing the sentiment of Richard Lovelace:

To Lucasta, going to the Wars

TELL me not, Sweet, I am unkind,
That from the nunnery
Of thy chaste breast and quiet mind
To war and arms I fly.

True, a new mistress now I chase,
The first foe in the field;
And with a stronger faith embrace
A sword, a horse, a shield.

Yet this inconstancy is such
As thou too shalt adore;
I could not love thee, Dear, so much,
Loved I not Honour more.

Could such a notion even be profered today as a noble thing? If the divorce, abandonment, abuse and out of wedlock birth rates are any indications, not likely. Feminists have succeeded in tearing down the societal structures that chanelled the natural impulses of men into more responsible directions.  And to think, that those very structures that feminists scorn for being archaic and anti-woman were created by MEN to make a better society.

If you are a guy who would like some practical advice on how to be a better father or know someone who needs to "man-up" and quit acting like an irresponsible bohemian teenager, I suggest just about anything written or recorded by Steve Wood, founder of the St. Joseph Covenant Keepers.

I especially recommend Passing the Torch, Christian Fatherhood and Boys to Men.

If you own a store and don't have an account with Family Life International, it's time to set one up and start helping men be real men and better fathers.

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Fran June 15, 2008 at 4:52 pm

What a joy it was to hear Fr. Jeremy at Holy Ghost Church in Denver speak so eloquently about fatherhood. Happy Fathers’ Day, Ian–you are bucking the trend by being a good man, husband and father. Your example will reach your sons and your daughters–the boys will grow up to be men of honor and integrity and the girls will know what qualities to look for in their husbands who will also be the fathers of their children. And Happy Fathers’ Day to all you good fathers out there–including you priests who father us spiritually.


Milehimama June 16, 2008 at 10:26 am

Well, The Cosby Show… Little House on the Prairie… The Waltons…Hmmm… they are all in reruns!

Stargate SG-1 is the most recent show in memory that had a good dad who sacrificed himself for his son. Several times over, since it was on the SciFi channel where time-travel is the norm! :)

I really, really hate the Kohler faucet ad where the father sees an attractive woman plumber, tries to clog the toilet, and gets caught by his wife. Terrible!


Kristin June 16, 2008 at 12:31 pm

Happy Father’s Day, Ian!

I don’t think it’s any coicidence that so many “gay pride” events are scheduled in June. Many who have ended up in the gay lifestyle had absent or abusive fathers. Maybe these “celebrations” are the homosexuals’ way of having an “anti-Father’s Day”….


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